Adele Initially Regretted Becoming a Mother

 

Adele regretted becoming a mother when she

 held a baby for the first time.




“ I felt like I’d made the worst decision of my life. “

Nothing could prepare her for the feeling of loathing motherhood.

The British singer was very happy in 2011 when she married businessman Simon Konecki. But Adele’s life would completely change, just a year later, when she became pregnant with her son, Angelo.


Instead of feeling the thrill and excitement that comes along with motherhood... Adele only felt frustration and helplessness. And that affected her deeply.


“ I felt very inadequate; I felt like I’d made the worst decision of my life. “

The singer was suffering from postpartum depression and had to endure harsh criticising.


“ it’s frightened me... My friends who didn’t have kids would get annoyed with me.”

The situation got even worse because Adele was in denial and rejected any type of help or medication.

“ I was very reluctant... My boyfriend said I should talk to other woman who were pregnant, and I said, ‘F— that, i ain’t hanging around with a F— bunch of mothers. “


She fell deeper into depression...

“ One day I said to a friend, ‘I f— hate this,’ and she just burst into tears and said,’I f— hate this, too.”
That’s when she decided to meet other mothers that were going through the same situation as her.

“ Four of my friends felt the same way I did, and everyone was too embarrassed to tell about it. “


She gradually started to see she wasn’t the only one with this problem.

Not caring about what others would say, Adele made an important decision.

“ Eventually I just said, I’m going to give myself an afternoon a week, just to do whatever the f— I want without my baby. “


Adele reorganised her weekly schedule to dedicate some time for herself.

“ One of my friends asked me if I didn’t feel guilty about it. I had to admit that I felt terrible, but not as bad as I would feel if I didn’t have time for myself. “
Despite the negative comments... she overcame depression and abandoned some bad habits, like smoking and drinking... for her and her son’s well-being.


“ I would drink two bottles of wine, and I would chain-smoke. Then I’d write the lyrics down and next morning thank,’ F—, that’s quite good’. But since I’ve had my baby, I’m not as carefree as are used to be. I’m scared of a lot of things now because I don’t want to die; I want to be around for my kid. “


After this hardship... Adele learnt how to communicate her feeling better and shares her story to help other women suffering from postpartum depression.

Now she feels complete and loves her son unconditionally. As much as she loves herself.

Do you know anyone who has been through the same?




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